My daughter surprised me with this wicked cool lamp you see in the picture below (the flowers are from my Danny ️). I don't know about you, but I get the biggest thrill when there is a package on the front porch for me (even if I ordered it). But this particular package was a complete surprise - which made my glee even more over the top.


Putting the lamp together was a bit of a project but I was thrilled when I had completed it and moved the lamp upstairs into my office.  As I hung my headphones on the lamp's arm it immediately bent down, as if it was bowing to me.  It cracked me up and made me feel a little bit special as my furniture addressed me with such deference 😊.

Being the center of attention can be thrilling and challenging.  I remember when I was a young girl and I played the clarinet in the local marching band.  One season I got to play a solo during the 'concert' portion of our band competition. 

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It was both terrifying and exhilarating.  In high school I joined the drama club and got to perform on stage as the youngest daughter in Fiddler on the Roof.  Again, I experienced that mix of fear and joy being on stage. With everyone's eyes on you it can feel like the whole world is holding its breath to see what you will do.

When I became a nurse practitioner those feelings of 'being on stage' resurfaced and the breath holding was often myself. I started out so self-critical, wondering if I made the right decision, did I miss anything in the care of my tiny, fragile patients. But over time I grew confident in my skills and my knowledge and settled in to my new role. And as the time passed, I also discovered there was a ceiling for me as an NNP in the clinical setting I was operating in.  I saw the boundaries of my practice and although there was comfort in that, I also experienced significant frustration.

So, why am I giving you a historical review of my life?  Well, I am hoping that you might be able to connect with what I am about to share. I am hoping that the journey I am on will resonate with your journey.

Starting out as a nurse entrepreneur I had a pretty fixed view of my goals and objectives.  I wanted to teach everyone how to integrate the core measures for trauma-informed neonatal care into their culture of care.  Simple, straight-forward, or at least that's what I thought.

The 5 core measures for trauma-informed care

The 5 core measures for trauma-informed care

As I have continued on this path what I have discovered is that this work is anything but simple and straightforward and certainly not as tangible and quantifiable as I had originally thought.  What I am discovering is this work, this global movement of trauma-informed care for infants, families and healthcare professionals, is really about reconnecting with our purpose and our passion.

And that my friend is where the spotlight comes in.

Cultivating the courage to stand in our power as heart-centered compassionate, technically proficient and extremely knowledgeable clinicians and change the existing healthcare paradigm tends to draw a lot of attention.  

The attendees of our Compassion Workshop, last month in Las Vegas, created this wordle of what courage means to them

The attendees of our Compassion Workshop, last month in Las Vegas, created this wordle of what courage means to them

This attention grabbing work is about balancing and integrating the science and soul dimensions of healthcare which, in and of itself, is fraught with lots of challenges.

After this past Friday's webinar  (entitled: Still Waters) I am even more convinced that many of you struggle on a day-to-day basis integrating the science and soul of caring in your work.

As one webinar attendee shared: "it's hard to integrate head, hearts and hands in a setting that doesn't always support it."

Another attendee shared that bringing her heart to work comes at the cost of an empty cup. Another's exasperation was palpable as she felt she needed to 'lower her expectations' as she grappled with the struggle to implement better practices in a culture too resistant to change.

If you're anything like me, I spent the better part of my life trying to control pretty much everything.  I didn't want any surprise, I wanted my life to be predictable and consistently manageable.

So I tended to play by the rules even if the rules didn't feel 'right't to me. I didn't want to rock the boat or piss anyone off. I was very happy to practice in the shadows.

I thought 'there must be something wrong with me' because everyone else seems fine with the 'way things are'.  But guess, what?  They are not fine with the way things are, they have simply abdicated their responsibility to make things better. They've given up!

Our healthcare system is broken and the patients and clinicians pay the price. 


It's HARD WORK to make things better, to change a culture, an existing paradigm, and balance science and soul in healthcare.  Often times you can feel like people are just waiting for you to fail so they can tell you "I told you so". "We tried that 30 years ago, it didn't work then and it won't work now."

But just because it's hard doesn't mean it shouldn't be done, in fact the very nature of the challenge is what calls us to our higher purpose.


So, I invite you to listen to your heart. What are your feelings of frustration, exhaustion, struggle and disappointment telling you?  I believe they are telling you that you are out of alignment with your true self, with your life's purpose and passion. 

Your feelings are a call to action. Like morse code, your feelings are trying to send you a distress signal that awakens your inner wisdom and the power and the courage that lies within you!

The Power of One Person to Make a Difference and Be the Difference in the Life of a Tiny Baby and His/Her Family!!



I know for darn sure I can't do this work alone.  As this global movement gains momentum I am acutely aware of the enormous responsibility inherent in leading such an important, noble and transformational cause. 

The end game?  A hospital experience that is free of traumatic stress for the babies, the families AND the clinicians.  An experience where the science and soul are integrated and unified.

Won't you help me?  

  • If you are interested in challenging the status quo to improve the standard of care for babies and families

  • If you would like to become a leader of this global movement and join an international community of change makers in the world of neonatology

  • If you want to learn how to stop doubting yourself, gain confidence, and know exactly how to stand in your power to fulfill your purpose and your passion



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We are still accepting applicants for our FALL Session 2019 

This 12-month coaching and development program provides the learner with a strong foundation in research, evidence-based best practices and improvement methodologies for trauma-informed care in the NICU while cultivating essentials skills to become courageous and authentic leaders for change. 

If this program sounds like if might be for you, schedule your discovery call before September 13th to be considered for this unique opportunity! 

Take care and care well,


P.S.: Using breakthrough, evidence-based strategies Caring Essentials helps you achieve clarity, build congruence, and challenges you, your colleagues, and your organization to become a center of excellence in trauma-informed care for infants, families and professionals.

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