Do you love blueberry pancakes? I do. They are so indulgent and the perfect vehicle to ingest large quantities of maple syrup without anyone giving you a hard time 😉.
My husband makes the most decadent blueberry pancakes and he made them for me yesterday for breakfast. I was in my office working on this email when the smell of the pancakes on the griddle was so overpowering I could no longer resist and came down stairs to help him set up - which means warming up the maple syrup.
Let me tell you a story.
One day, many years ago, when Dan and I first started seeing each other, I wanted to make him pancakes for breakfast. As I buzzed around the kitchen getting the ingredients and equipment ready he asked: "Do you have real maple syrup?"
I was so wicked confused by the question. What was he talking about? Of course I had real maple syrup. I've been using the same kind of maple syrup pretty much my whole life. I told him of course it was real and placed the 'stop & shop' brand light maple syrup on the table.
He looked at me incredulously and said: "Mary, not only is that 'not real' but it's 'light not real' maple syrup'. It's literally the furthest thing from real maple syrup."
Who knew? I had no idea. Now, it's not that I hadn't noticed a bunch of other brands and kinds of maple syrup on the supermarket shelf but I just figured they were all basically the same, what difference did it make and stuck with what I knew, 'Stop & Shop' light fake syrup.
I knew what I was getting when I stuck with what I had always used. Little did I know however, what I was missing out on. The next weekend, Dan made me blueberry pancakes and he picked up REAL MAPLE SYRUP. As I took that first bite, with the warm syrup cascading over my fork full of luscious blueberry pancakes I realized in an instant what I had been missing out on for MY WHOLE LIFE!!
It's true we don't know what we don't know, but often that doesn't seem to stop us. We make assumptions, judgments and even decisions based on what we don't know. And when we do this we don't give the blueberry pancakes (or our life) the chance to be as scrumdiddlyumptious as it truly can be.
Please don't tell me I'm the only person who has done this. Maybe not with maple syrup, but has anyone else done the same thing for years without realizing there could be something better out there?
Let's go back to the pancakes. When Dan was introducing the real maple syrup my initial reaction was for him to use it for his pancakes and I would just use my old syrup for my pancakes. Listen, I LOVE pancakes! I didn't want anything to compromise my pancakes' taste. I was resistant to trying the real stuff. I had to trust Dan (and his taste buds) in order to change - I wasn't sure I was ready for that level of commitment 😊.
I was perfectly happy with my syrup but Dan was relentless. "Just try it" he would say 80 million times until I caved. Why couldn't he just leave me be. My syrup choice wasn't hurting anyone, what was the big deal.
But the big deal was that I was operating from a place of ignorance. Even if I didn't fall madly in love with real maple syrup at least tasting it I would then know I didn't like it. Don't my pancakes deserve the best syrup there is, don't I?
Life is so full of so many amazing, wonderful, scary, challenging, expanding and loving opportunities (and flavors). When we deny ourselves the chance to try something different we deny ourselves the opportunity to grow, evolve and discover new and wonderful things (not to mention discovering something new about our self).
So, ask the questions and reach for the new, the different. Invite them into your life, taste them fully and be with each experience to savor, discover and enjoy the beauty of the world around you and the joy there is in being you.
Instead of resisting change, resist stagnation, resist resistance. Sample everything life offers you (personally and professionally)... including real maple syrup!
Take care and care well,
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